Hey everyone...
someone recently asked me about what i thought about male modesty?
my answer is simple. I have no idea. :) This is for two reasons
1. I'm a guy so how am i supposed to know what isn't modest. I need girls to tell me.
2. Secondly, i don't even like wearing shorts, so i'm constantly in jeans (not tight) and a shirt (or more often a hoodie).
It's something i guarantee you guys NEVER think of. If girls find us immodest than that is a wake up call like crazy. Now...obviously if we walked around shirtless or something....which
1. i wouldn't do
2. dont have abs to show off anyway.
but other than that...its not like that many guys wear speedos swimming or anything. at least no one i know.
But....I wanna hear from the females out there. Do you find immodesty in guys?
OR...what is the one thing that turns you off the males the most. Modesty is mine for girls. What is yours for guys?
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Thanks for responding to my question. :) My blog about this is up, if you're interested in my perspective. (I linked your blog post on modesty, but I can remove that, if you'd like.)
ReplyDeleteHey Stephanie,,,just one more thing on this topic. I think the reason that modesty has been geared toward women and not men is because it is one of THE MOST destructive things for a man. Now, i can't speak for you...but for any girl i've ever spoken to on the topic (including my sister)...it is not the same for women. Doesn't mean we shouldn't be conscientious of it....just that's why we plead with you more than you have pleaded with us.
ReplyDeleteagain...thoughts from the male species
Hey james....I'm thinking like modesty in character. Like being courteous towards girls and acting in a godly manner when with them. I agree with you, I'm not sure how modesty would fit into the guys clothing department.
ReplyDeleteyeah lexi. i would definitely agree. like a slave would treat the princess.
ReplyDeleteOkay, my take on this would be... I never really think of guys needing to be "modest" (in the same context as girls). The amount of flesh showing really doesn't affect girls.
ReplyDeleteGirls are emotionally wired (if you haven't guessed that already) a simple action or word can set a girl's entire life reeling if you're not careful. In the same way girls have to be careful how they hug and dress around guys; Guys have to be careful how they behave or call upon a girl.
Does that make any sense?
yeah...definitely.
ReplyDeleteone reason I am so against flirting, and try very
hard not to be one. Although, I admit...more than naught
I probably fail on the other end of the spectrum and most
girls i like probably think i hate them. lol
lol
ReplyDeleteI definitely think there is such a thing as modesty for guys. I don't think that the popular trend of wearing your pants low that they- well don't cover, and wearing t-shirts that are sleeveless and see through is immodest.
Something that turns me off in guys- well, I haven't had much opportunity to study the male species( ;) ) , but I think the number one thing would be if they behaved or were what would be called "a women killer". That kind of disgusts me. I guess that would fall under flirting.
Anyway, thanks for sharing, and you've inspired me to write a post on all this. :)
Hey James, I have some thoughts on male modesty that I wont dive into right now, but I wanted to touch on your question of what is a major male turn off.
ReplyDeleteIn one word: Pride.
In a few more words: we are all obviously proud people as part of our sinful nature, but guys have a different way of expressing it. Arrogance is so horribly unattractive (at least to me) and humility is so awesome to see in a guy.
That may be just me, but from what I've seen from talking to other girls, it's a big frustration.
hmm male modesty... unless they are shirtless its not really a problem. but turn offs: first I would agree with Olivia, arrogance ticks me off. when guys act all awesome to try to impress girls or something, it is like be yourself!! In a similar sense it bothers me a lot when guys think it is perfectly alright to be all sweet and nice and friendly when you are with them but then are totally different people when they are around their guy friends. Don't do that. Because it is annoying. lol, that is basically my thoughts on the topic.
ReplyDeleteI think it is immodest when guys have their boxers hanging out or when their pants are really tight. I know that girls aren't affected by immodesty as much as guys, but that doesn't mean we are totally unaffected. :) And I agree that guys need to be careful with girls feelings. I think that the biggest turn-off is when guys (and I do realize that girls do this too) start talking about a member of the opposite sex and you find yourself thinking "is this a person? because it sounds like you're talking about food."
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